What Does It Take to Make You FEEL Good?

Are there days that you are happy, energetic and things couldn’t be brighter? Are there days that you are down in the dumps and cannot pull yourself out? Sure, we’ve both had those kinds of days.

However, what does it take to transform one to another? Any ideas? I’d love to hear your opinion on this as I am currently feeling in one of the down in the dumps modes right now. Why? Because there is a lot of things I have to do in a short amount of time and I feel pressure. Instead of tackling the things I find myself wanting to get lost in distractions. Before long too much time goes by and the pressure seems so intense like things cannot possibly get done!

Have you noticed you’ve had days like this, as have I, and what happens? Somehow we get through the day and we cannot even remember some of the pressures from the past, can we? Our mind does an excellent job of creating stress, doesn’t it? The mind impacts the body and next thing you know we feel sick and run down. Here’s a great quote I love:

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
~ Mahatma Ghandi, b. 1869

Basically speaking, it ALL starts in our heads…in our thoughts to be specific. I can choose thoughts of pressure, time constraints and stress. OR, I can choose the thought “It is all perfect. This is the exact place I’m supposed to be doing what I am doing right now. What can I learn from this? What thoughts, words and actions can I have that will cause me a wonderful result?”

Sometimes we just need to catch ourselves in the act! I am human being doing the best I can. I am grateful for my life and the wonderful opportunities I have right now. I love a good challenge and I know I can produce some incredible results in record time. I choose now to shift my thinking, put on some happy music and make some of the tasks I have to do fun.

The truth is tomorrow I probably won’t remember any of today’s thoughts so why am I worrying so much?

The History of Valentine’s Day and Chocolate

Did you ever wonder how Valentine’s Day got its start and when we started giving chocolates for Valentine’s gifts to those we love?  Why do we symbolize love and Valentine’s Day with a heart, did you ever think about that?  Most of us just take those things for granted.  Every year we simply buy a card (called a Valentine) or a heart shaped gift box of chocolates to those we love or like a lot.  Why do we do this?

Today, I decided to do some research.  Even as the owner of a chocolate store, I did not have the answers to these question until now!

To begin have to go back to the 4th century BC. The ancient Romans held an annual feast called Lupercalia on February 15th.  One of the festivities was to pair young men and women for a year, by a sort of ‘lottery.’ As you can imagine, this pairing event led to many marriages!

The ruler of the time, Claudius II, realized that the more marriages took place, the more young men did not sign up to be in the army. In addition, Claudius felt that men would be too distracted and could not effectively participate in battle if they were married or engaged.  Being ever so wise, Emperor Claudius II simply banned marriages!

Along came a priest named Valentine.  Secretly, Valentine performed marriage ceremonies.  As a result of his defiance from Roman law, Valentine was put to death on February 14th.

In the middles ages, February 14th was said to be the day of “love,” for it was believed that birds mated on that day.  The tradition started in the early 1400’s of sending “love letters.”

The red heart became the symbol and most people would create hand-made cards for their loved ones. By 1840, Mrs. Esther Howard got the idea to mass produce these cards and sold $5,000 worth.  That would mean well over a quarter of a million dollars to you and me!

1840 marked another big year in history, it was the very first time chocolate was eaten!
I bet you do not know that prior to 1840, chocolate was consumed as only a beverage. The 1840’s brought Belgian chemists working day and night to combine cocoa butter sugar and flavors into chocolate so they may be pressed into molds.

By 1849 the Cadbury brothers got the recipe right and created the very first box of chocolates!  In 1861 Richard Cadbury created the very first heart shaped box of chocolates to give the sweet taste of chocolate to people’s “sweeties.”

Chocolate has been associated with love.  Did you know that chocolate contains the substance, phenylethylamine, which is the very same chemical produced by the brain when we are in love?  We as human, love feeling love, so its no wonder that we can often turn to chocolate when we are not feeling love from a person!

Chocolate also contains more antioxidants and vitamins and minerals than any other food on the planet!  Did you know that just a tablespoon of raw cacao powder contains the same amount of antioxidants as 6 cups of blueberries?

Oh, there is so much more I could tell you about chocolate! Why don’t I? If you would like a free download of my Law of Chocolate audio… click here.

This way you will be convinced that nothing makes people feel as special, as chocolate. Let me know what you think!

Remember, nothing feels as good as love.  Do everything you can to show them you love them…and don’t forget the chocolate!  Happy Valentine’s Day!

Why You Don’t Have A Valentine!

Well, here we are! 2013 and another year with no Valentine. How do you feel about that? Are you in the same shoes as me? Somehow I woke up today 46 years old, almost 47, single with not a hope of a relationship in sight. Back in the old days someone like me would be called a “spinster.” Not a very attractive thought.

However, I am having my best year yet. I have finally become vocal about what is in my heart! I am a newly published author, have more friends and excitement and great possibilities for the future than EVER before. Is there something wrong with me that I don’t have a Valentine? Is there something wrong with you that you don’t have a Valentine? Is there something wrong with your adult child or friend that is still single? I say, “NO.”

I believe that each of us has a purpose to our lives. Some include falling in love, having kids and raising a family. Some include dealing with great difficulties and using those times to help and inspire others with their lives. I grew up believing in a fairy tale, that if I was a good girl my prince charming would arrive and I would live happily after. I still do believe in love, however I believe if I am playing full out being the woman I am meant to be in the world, and give out a tremendous amount of love, love will come back to me.

You see, we cannot want to be love and be loving at the same time. It’s either one or the other. If we spend time on Valentine’s Day feeling depressed of what we don’t have, we miss a huge opportunity to rejoice on what we do have an love others. Making another person feel special also makes us feel special. We all have people in our lives that need to feel special don’t we? Plus, we look and feel our absolute best when we are loving another.

As for “The One” or “The Soul Mate” I ask that you don’t sweat it. You have around you a huge group of people that love you! You are one of a kind and there is no one as special as you. You have lots of invisible folks around you too, who love you and support you and want you to be happy. You have a special mission of what you are here to do on earth. Get busy.

Oh, and to simply answer the question, “Why Don’t You Have a Valentine?” BECAUSE YOU HAVE LOTS OF VALENTINE’S. You have more love around you than you can imagine. Trust the process and give love. Will you take that on today?